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Double Whammy

I will be the first to admit, that I have in recent times, been a little intense, I will also confess to finding it hard to “Chill”, but I am working on it. So please bear with me. Its tough breaking this cycle of  self centred behaviours ,  but I am assured that this experience on my journey, is both normal, and transitory.

The difficulty I find in moving on from this period of intensity should be considered in the context of my experience. This week I believe I have encountered for the first time a very real level of Transphobia.

In the space of a single week I have been excluded from two separate and unrelated events. Two events to which I was initially invited, and then subsequently denied access to. If it was just one, I would chalk it up to Paranoia and move on. Two in a week has crystallised a fear and rendered it tangible.

It is something I need to deal with. There will be many people whose lack of understanding of my condition will respond to my presence with fear or revulsion, and in return I am going to learn to respond with compassion and good grace….

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

9 responses to “Double Whammy”

  1. Hope Gately Avatar
    Hope Gately

    Indeed…these people are not worth wasting your precious time and energy on…..

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  2. jane Avatar
    jane

    absolutely,lead by example

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  3. Dawn Avatar
    Dawn

    The relentless requirement to educate the ignorant must be exhausting. I can’t imagine there is anyone anyone more determined, eloquent and qualified to do it, though. Keep on keeping on xx

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  4. kimberlyjaneolsen Avatar
    kimberlyjaneolsen

    Don’t read between the lines. Is it true? You have no way of knowing for sure therefore it isn’t what u think until it is proved it is, and why would u waste your time working out if it is?

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  5. Deb Avatar
    Deb

    Any event would only be enhanced by the attendance of someone as charming, eloquent and funny as you !!

    If other people cannot see you for you because of their own prejudices and intolerance (I’m sorry but fear is just a feeble excuse!) then that is their problem and their loss !

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  6. Helen Owens Avatar
    Helen Owens

    Unfortunately Suzanne this attitude from some people will possibly come your way again. Perhaps you could see their reaction from the perspective that they are still in the early stages of their journey to a state of tolerance and understanding.

    As you know, we humans tend to fear what we don’t understand and if an individual’s only example in life has been intolerance, prejudice and fear then it is only education that will make a change.
    Your plan to respond to their attitudes with grace and compassion is part of that education.

    Besides being plain bad manners, it was a huge loss for these people to withdraw invitations. They miss out on what you had to contribute.

    Onward and upward, there are just too many people out there that want you to succeed. xx

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  7. Karen Avatar
    Karen

    If this is indeed true Suzanne, try not to give it too much thought. As Helen said, you have way too many people around you who want you to succeed and fully support you – don’t use up energy worrying about the few who you feel may not. x

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  8. catherinebonneville Avatar
    catherinebonneville

    Hi Suzanne, I would beg to differ on your last comment. This is NOT something YOU need to deal with. It is something that others who lack understanding need to deal with. All you have to do is be yourself and surround yourself with positive people. This journey will automatically sort the wheat from the chaff. Simply let the chaff blow away in the wind.

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  9. Louise Avatar
    Louise

    No response needed to those who through fear or ignorance prefer to behave badly. Even though it’s hard when you are a sensitive person, going through the toughest transition in your life, don’t take their actions personally. Easier said than done, though it will hurt less and less the more you move forward.

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