Bloody Hell……….

Following on from the pre-emptive destruction of my self esteem by a harmless ten year old on Saturday I have been steadily slipping backwards.

This has prompted much discussion over the last few days between Jane and myself. Which has continued this evening and culminated in Jane dropping the following gem.

“Bloody Hell, I’ve been trying to be a Woman all my life, you’ve been doing it for ten months and you have a long way to go. Give yourself some time !!!!! Don’t be so bloody impatient.”

The truth is of course I have been trying not to be a woman for most of my life, and now I’m working backwards, unlearning, and embracing a truth I discovered forty odd years ago.

Jane is as ever, spot on. Its going to take time….Trying to condense all those missed years into the NOW. Its hard…..

Take the Eighties for example….I missed out on leg warmers, brightly coloured patent heels, shoulder pads and big hair, even if we now look back in mock disgust at those things I don’t care, it looked like fun 🙂

I’ll leave the final words of this Blog to the master musician and brilliant pianist Billy Joel, who we are currently sat listening to.

“If you are not doing what you love, you are wasting your time.”

5 responses to “Bloody Hell……….”

Kathryn

September 19, 2016

Love Jane’s wisdom!

At a BBQ a few months ago my best friend’a sister-in-law’s four year old boy announced loudly to the whole group ‘she’s fat’ while indicating me. Not bring very confident in myself I just didn’t know where to look instead of laughing at childish honesty which I should have done. The mum took both kids off for a word.

Fast forward a couple of months and I went to another BBQ at this friend’s house. I presume the mum prewarned both kids about manners, but this time her seven year old daughter came straight up to me, three year old cousin in tow and asked me if I had a baby in my tummy, is that why it’s so big? This time I just eyeballed her and said ‘that’s not a very nice thing to say’ at which point she sidled off.

Neither made me feel very good… childish innocence/honesty or attention seeking, it still was a confrontational observation about the thing I’m most self conscious of. Who knew a child could make me feel so crap!

Anyway my point is I get it, and it foesnt feel nice. But you and I are both much more than that some snotty ill mannered kid’s remark xx

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vk2kmi

September 20, 2016

quote “woman is [not a ] stable, universal, and identifiable category. … It hasn’t been for a very long time. … socialization is what makes a woman a woman – it is, in essence, what we raise females to be, and it is made of how we treat women, including their right to self-determine, to have bodily autonomy, and to resist definitions of woman-ness that oppress and restrict them”

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Peter Lewis

September 20, 2016

Ah, if you had been able to wear leg warmers, brightly coloured patent heels, shoulder pads and big hair, just think of the impact you would have made at the Round Table buggy races. I’d have enjoyed seeing a bonkers woman driver screeching around on no tyres even more than a bonkers you as you were then!

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Jen

September 20, 2016

Jane is so wise. I think that book you’re going to write needs to include lots of ‘Jane-isms’ peppered throughout – probably whole chapters.
Meanwhile, I say go for it with the brightly coloured patent heels but shoulder pads are definitely a no! 🙂

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Louise

September 20, 2016

Ooh! Maybe there is a theme for a photo shoot or ladies ride in that lament for the 80’s fashion?

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